“… and then we went to this little cafe–no, wait. First, we stopped at one of those roadside gift shops? Oh, it was all just junk. But, we were good tourists and…”
You know the person. You’ve been there. Everyone is discussing the goofiest souvenir they ever purchased when someone pipes up and instead of sharing his, he begins a narrative that ends not only the discussion but the party, too.
Sometimes blogs feel like that.
I mean, I sit here every week (sometimes multiple times a week) and share these long, rambly stories of my childhood, my crazy family, or something that taught me about something else.
I love it, okay? I love reliving the good and bad times and seeing what the Lord has done in my life. It’s wonderful. Other times I spout off my opinions. Because that’s what a blog is for–permission to climb up on that soapbox and pontificate your solutions to life’s evils and ills. It’s fun.
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Note:: There are no affiliate links in this post, but if there were (and if I were a good blogger there would be), they would provide me with a bit of a commission at no extra expense to you. I’m not supposed to tell you what I do with those, but it starts with a D, ends with an S and has a couple of Ns set off by an E and a Y. *whistles* Apparently, I’m not allowed to express my gratitude for you purchasing through my affiliate links either. So, I’m not SAYING thank you at all. Nope. Feeling… well, the rules didn’t say anything about that.
Where was I? Oh, yeah. I want more than just a one-sided discussion! I want to get to know you guys. You come here, you read, you participate in all my goofiness (thanks for humoring me!!!), and I try to show my appreciation with the episodes or gift cards now and then, but that still doesn’t help me know you. Who are you? Are you the willing wallflower who hides in corners and delights to watch the rest of the party revel in the socialness of it all? Or are you the center of attention, the life of every party. Are funerals safe around you? Just askin’…
Okay, those aren’t even things I thought of when I decided just to ask. Yep! I’m ASKING.
I even created an easy survey so I can get to know you better.
That’s right, five simple questions. That’s it. And one of them I even showed you how to “get an out” on it. That’s right. I went there. Just for you. So, I’m going to stop yammering and ask you to take the survey. And when you’re done, don’t forget to leave a comment.
Seriously, have a fabulous day! I so wish I could show you the ridiculous video I tried to make that wouldn’t upload. LOL.
Anne L. Rightler says
I wasn’t really very informative on the survey! 🙂 I’m kind of a boring person.
Carol says
i took the surgery. Thank you
Chautona Havig says
Thank you! I should be drawing this week.
Linda says
I took the survey from here in England
Chautona Havig says
Thank you!! That’s so cool
Kathy says
I did your survey. So glad you are bringing back the serial episode this summer. I thought you weren’t going to finish it!
Chautona Havig says
Well, that section here and section there wasn’t working. LOL!
CutePolarBear says
I took the survey! 🙂
CutePolarBear
Chautona Havig says
Thank you! I really do appreciate it!
Paula says
I hit the wrong button and did not get to comment! That should tell you enough about me right there!!!???
Chautona Havig says
MMMWWAAAHAHAHAH
Pam says
That was a fun survey and different than I anticipated. Love your books, they make me laugh, cry, feel the characters you write about. I hear you on the heat; it was 101 here again today but starting to cool down. Blessings!
Chautona Havig says
Thanks! I wanted it easy and not the same old, same old!
Jennifer M. says
I love being social, but only after I get to know you. I am just as happy sitting in the corner people watching and occasionally overhearing others conversations wishing I could write a book… Lind of like someone in dennys. Lol! I love laughing. In fact at a cousins bridal shower recently another cousin and I were laughing so hard over her difficulties actually getting food to her mouth while trying to talk with her hands that we practically had to run to the bathroom. It made some think we were drunk (we weren’t) and others got joy from watching us have fun. I love bringing joy to others hearts.
Chautona Havig says
Oh, I so get you. We could just go to Denny’s and write together. This could be a thing. Next time I’m in your neck of the woods, let me know. We’ll make this happen!
Anne Payton says
Well, I had almost shared my secret with you in your 5 question survey, when my hand slipped and I was surprised to find that I had sent my final “book wish” before I finished! Bummer! But, I did want to tell you that I really enjoy your writing for several reasons:
1. You create believable characters and memorable plots that are consistent with Christian values and inspire me to walk closer with Christ.
2. You have an incredible gift of interweaving plot lines within other plots! (I admire that – Anne McCaffrey comes to mind as the only other author I have read who can do that and not confuse me.)
3. Your writing makes me consider you a friend! – and one I could sit down and visit comfortably with for – oh, say – a few hours at a time (frequently, to be sure!).
4. I can’t wait for new installments in all of your series. I’d ask you to write faster, but you are so prolific already the request is nonsensical!
5. You make me want to end all of my comments to you with exclamation points!
Chautona Havig says
Your response just made my day. Seriously. It’s hot, CRAZY humid, my lungs are full of gunk, and my book is almost done. I have a house masquerading as a disaster movie, and I really need a nap (just woke up an hour or so ago). But I think I’m ready to dive in and get this thing done. WOOT.
And if I’m ever talking about being in your area, be sure to let me know so we can get coffee. (But I’ll take Coke, thanks!)
Alicia G says
🙂 Yes that was fun answering your questions. My book title was The Outcome…. Thanks it felt good to tell the reason for it. 🙂
Chautona Havig says
OO…. I love that title. OFf to see what it’s about!
Jane says
(finishing my last answet…) A courtship story. 3 rules: wait till you’re ready or almost ready for marriage before pursuing an exclusive relationship, involve people you trust and who love you (ie, parents) in the process, and engage your brain before letting go of your heart. Worked like a charm in our family, looked different every time, and I have 7 happily married kids. I hate romances that take people to the altar without asking hard lifestyle questions. (I don’t consider you guilty ;-).)
Chautona Havig says
I’ve got similar plans for Aggie’s kids… showing both sides of the coin. 🙂
Jane says
Love it! And I know there are some crazy ideas out there–not advocating that. But we learn so much by modeling and most of the models out there are far more about infatuation than wisdom.
Lora says
I’d like to see your responses.
Chautona Havig says
I’ll try to remember to add them in when I write about this! Thanks for a great idea!
Elisabeth says
I think you do an amazing job at making your readers feel included! Just saying.
Chautona Havig says
Aw, thanks. That’s exactly how I want it to be… interaction, not pontification!
Kate says
That was a fun survey! Thank you for wanting to get to know us better, and I hope the answer to what book we want will have results. 😀
Chautona Havig says
I fully intend to play with those–even if just imaginary synopses to let folks vote on which one becomes a “thing.”
Diane Sidener says
Thanks for your faithful writing, I love your books and always look forward to seeing what you’re up to. I admit to really wanting to see the next books in the Prairie and Highlands series, and more of your Rockland stories. I’d LOVE to move to HearthLand!!!
Chautona Havig says
Seaside was supposed to finish up this year, but I have been playing with it and I think I’ve made it better by waiting. So maybe 2018!!!
Diane Sidener says
Clearly another opportunity to exercise patience 😉
Chautona Havig says
I’m all about helping you in your spiritual growth. You’re welcome. Ahem.
Diane Sidener says
LOL, and gee, thanks :/
Katherine says
Thus was fun! I appreciate you wanting to get to know us!
Chautona Havig says
Getting to know you, getting to know all about you. Getting to like you, gettign to hope you like me. 🙂 I love getting to know you guys! I have the BEST readers EVER. I kind of feel sorry for other authors, actually!
Barbara Palmer says
I wrote a comment, but I think it disappeared. I won’t write all that again. I do love your books and thank God for the talent He has given you!
Chautona Havig says
It made it. But a bunch came in at once, so the site filed them in spam just in case. I sorted it out. And here yours are. Thank you for being so kind to me!
Barbara Palmer says
It took me some trouble to get to this section on your site. I need one of these young well-versed people to help. I love your books and only wish I had friends who read. Only a man at church who is a speed and has borrowed a lot of my books. Of course that is the only objection I have to the Kindle. I only knew a preacher’s wife and she had a Nook. I’m thankful to God who has given you this wonderful talent!
Chautona Havig says
Aw, Barbara! Thanks. And many Kindle books can be loaned, but both people have to have a Kindle/app. And each one can only be loaned once. 🙁 I wish you lived closer. We could swap books. Squee!
Lori Smanski says
well this was fun. Have a fabulous end of the summer
Chautona Havig says
YAY! I’m so glad it’s fun. I didn’t want it to be a pain, you know? And you quilt. Aaah.. I love quilting.
Cordially Barbara says
I’m a sucker for surveys…so I got your email and I had to come over and chip my opinion into the batch!
Chautona Havig says
WOOT! I love that you did that. You made my day! *raises glass… “Cheers!”*
Kim Gregory says
I would love to be entered! What a great idea you had here! I bet you found out some wonderful things from your quirky and diverse readers. We have to be quirky – just like some of your characters – and diverse because that is how you write – you go in so many different directions you keep us hopping! Thank you for sharing your gift with us. We do so appreciate it.
Chautona Havig says
Quirky people are the best… even if their quirk is that they have no quirks! I mean, talk about quirky! 😀
Diane Staples says
I took your survey. Thanks for entering me in the drawing.
Chautona Havig says
Thank you so much! Good luck!
Gladys Mills says
I just took your survey about getting to know me. It was great! I love your books and your insight to life. I always wish my life could be a little simplier sometimes. thanks for the time. Gladys
Chautona Havig says
Oh, the simple life. It might be a dream, ut man… what a dream!
Dacia says
Fun ‘quiz’, and this is so you! You are such a caring person. And my favorite author!
Chautona Havig says
Aw… I blush. And I’m grateful that you didnt find it annoying!
Shelia Garrison says
I did your survey. I would like to be in your drawing for a gift card at Amazon.
Chautona Havig says
Thank you! I thought I’d be drawing by now, but I keep getting more responses, so I’m going to wait a few more days!
tami says
I enjoy reading and you always bring a smile to my face:)))
Chautona Havig says
Aw, thanks! I try but that just means I’m very trying.
LaShea says
Thanks for creating the survey so you can get to know your fans better. That’s was fun, especially the last question. By the way… I’m so excited for new Vintage Wren episodes!!!!
Chautona Havig says
The first one is already scheduled for Wednesday. Coming up… THE AFTERMATH. D:
Chrys says
The survey was fun. I have to say that I have read a lot of books but I always come back to yours. You have such a way with stories, I can’t wait for the next! Thank you for all your hard work.
Chautona Havig says
Oh, thank you! That is so encouraging. And yes, there are a lot of great authors out there. I wish I had time for more, frankly!
Traci says
Thank you for caring
Chautona Havig says
You know what? Thank you for taking the time to reassure me that it SHOWS that I care. Because I’m not always good at that, you know?
Leah Spencer says
I was expecting a lot more nosy questions… let down my guard and wham! The last question threw me off. 😀 But I’ll be more than happy to fill out surveys in the future, or even just answering questions.
Chautona Havig says
YAY! I didn’t want it to be too much of a burden, but I did want the answers to help me provide the best content I can for you guys!
Bren says
Love reading your books and your blog. You are SO real. Have a wonderful day!
Chautona Havig says
Some would say REALly weird, but hey! I’ll take it! You have a great day, too!
Kristen Sniadowski says
filled out the survey – thanks for always being in touch with your fans!
Chautona Havig says
Thank you for doing it! It’s so much fun!
Amelia says
I filled out the survey. Thanks!
Chautona Havig says
Thanks for doing it!
Lena Stumper says
[email protected] – did the survey 🙂
Chautona Havig says
Thanks, Lena!
Pat Fenstermaker says
Hey, this is Pat and I answered your questions.
Chautona Havig says
Hey, Pat! Thanks for doing that!
Rebecca Jones says
Fun survey. Thanks!
Chautona Havig says
Thanks for taking it!
Emma says
What a fun survey! I might have missed a question, though. One seemed to disappear when I clicked to begin.
Chautona Havig says
So weird! I’m sorry. I’ll have to see if they’re all there or not.
Tina at Mommynificent says
That was fun!!! I’m a coffee girl – I even drink decaf because I love the taste! I have a fifth child who keeps me busier than the other four combined ever have. I missed something about the launch team judging from the comments. I’m sad you still haven’t made it to Dallas. And I love you. The end.
Chautona Havig says
Okay, that’s it. You just made my day. Thanks. I’ve been battling a headache, so maybe now I can sleep in the warm glow of knowing I’m loved. Aaaah… zzzzz
Alesha says
Here’s my comment saying that I filled out the survey. 😉
Chautona Havig says
YAY! Thanks!
Mari says
I love you 🙂 I am thankful for your books and your blog! But you left out the New Living Translation which is my favorite translation 😀 ;-P
Chautona Havig says
Pretty sure that’s a “Combo” A “balance” between both word for word and thought for thought.
Mari says
Yes ma’am! 🙂
Eileen says
The survey was fun! I enjoy your books and your blog. Thanks for your kindness and generosity. You sent me a couple of free ebooks when I couldn’t afford to buy them.
Chautona Havig says
I always think it’s silly to withhold books from those who can’t or won’t buy them anyway. They’re meant to be read!
Kamely says
Fun survey. Thanks!
Chautona Havig says
Woot. I wonder if I can guess your answers before I look…
Vickie says
Great questions!
Chautona Havig says
Thnak you! I can’t wait to see what I learn about you!
Emily Hayes says
That was fun! Great idea too
Chautona Havig says
Thanks! I love getting to know folks!
Connie says
I did the survey. Fun!
Chautona Havig says
Thanks! I can’t wait to share what I learn!
Chris says
That was fun. Could use an Amazon gift card, too!
Chautona Havig says
Rootin’ for you guys!
Michael Ann says
We seriously need to meet for coffee one day! I’d love to spend a day (or three) with you and chat! I would ask you these same questions, just for starters. So let me know when you mosey on over to Savannah, Georgia, okay? (In the meantime, keep up the good work on your blog!)
Chautona Havig says
I was there two years ago. LOVED it. Spent all day wandering around the old town area in August 2 heat while I soaked up atmosphere and ideas. Went out to Tybee, found the area for Cora Dearling’s house… and the Dyrehurst Mysteries were born!
I’ll be flying into Atlanta in October. Wonder if my traveling buddy wants to take another detour.
Michael Ann says
How cool that you were here, yet I’m bummed that I was here too but hadn’t discovered you yet! Maybe I can catch up with you when you’re in Georgia! (Wait. You visited this are in AUGUST?!? Are you CRAZY?!?)
Chautona Havig says
I’m from the desert. You can’t scare me with a little heat.
Colleen Parker says
I LOVE this get-to-know-you game! Especially the last question! I have had a story idea in my head for several years, but I’m not very likely to do anything with it and this gives me an outlet to share it!
Colleen Parker says
Coffee. Decaf. Caribou. LOTS of half & half.
Twinings Earl Grey Tea. Hot with cream or iced.
Stash Licorice Spice Tea. Yum.
Just in case you were wondering!
Chautona Havig says
SCORE! I’ll leave the coffee to you and take that tea…
Chautona Havig says
Hee hee. Well, I figure if I combine all into one epic novel, it’ll be a wild ride, but a funny one!
Sarah K says
I did your survey. What fun! I’ve enjoyed reading about you on your blog and newsletter, and I hope you will now feel like you know your readers a little better too. Have a great day!
Chautona Havig says
I’m having a BLAST!
Faith Derickson says
By the way, just in case this was part of the deal–I did do the survey. I think I answered the business question in error. I did put our website there, but it is not a business. All information there is free! My hubby says God gave to us and we freely share it!
Chautona Havig says
It’s still good to share, and I’ll try to remember to tell folks that when I do!
Faith Derickson says
I love your books! Enjoy your blog! Could you think about putting some of your earlier books (kindle) on special or free *giggle* for some of us who were unaware of your awesome books back in the beginning? I would love to buy them all, but that really isn’t an option for me at full price. Thanks for whatever you can do.
Chautona Havig says
I’m rewriting Noble, so you want to wait for that. TRUST ME. But I’ll make sure Ashley knows that there’s a need for earlier ones. 😀
Heather Gragg says
Just editing so no one can spam Heather. Got the email in the comment form
Chautona Havig says
Thanks, Heather!
Susan (DE) says
Confused. Was there a coke vs. coffee question?????
Was I supposed to tell you my age?
Fifth child…what???
Susan (DE) says
Okay. I now get the coke vs. coffee. I drink coffee occasionally. I prefer Pepsi to Coke, but I don’t have either a LOT. Of course, to a teetotaler (so to speak), I drink soda a LOT. But it’s usually once or twice a month… I guess.
Chautona Havig says
Hee hee. Well, if you’re sweet tea or die, soda doesn’t cut it.
Susan (DE) says
No. ALMOST never have sweet tea. But I just try to be moderate. 🙂
Susan (DE) says
By the way, I DO have a fifth child! 🙂
Chautona Havig says
Me, too! First son!
Susan (DE) says
Mine was my FOURTH son! 🙂 But after that, I only had daughters! (ended up 4 and 4!!)
Chautona Havig says
I had four, a boy, two girls, a boy, and a girl
Chautona Havig says
I don’t unless I can’t avoid it out of politeness. 1/4 tsp MAX in my tall glass. MAX.
Susan (DE) says
So you’re saying you might drink a sip of sweet tea if you have to??
I grew up with iced tea (south) — but as a little kid, I didn’t like it a lot — and then we moved north and I didn’t get the habit at an age when it would have taken.
Chautona Havig says
I won’t be rude and refuse it if served, but I won’t request or order it. I grew up with semi-sweet tea. Mom made sun tea and then added 2 tbs of sugar to each glass f hers. At least. I wanted just a tiny pinch to cut the bitterness.
Susan (DE) says
I know what you mean about cutting the bitterness. My great aunt or grandmother used to serve tea without sugar (sounds unusual for the south, and they were southerners through and through) — and they told me to put a little sugar in. I put some and stirred and stirred and tasted (ugh) and put more and stirred and stirred… On it went, till it was…palatable…sort of…
You have an interesting G/B pattern. 🙂 Mine is interesting, too, but not as much… (B, G, 3B, 3G).
Chautona Havig says
I joke that if I ever had another child it would have to be a boy and we couldn’t have more because you can’t halve a person.
Chautona Havig says
Hee hee. Sorry. I’m good at that confusing thing. WE’ve all got our skillz.
Susan (DE) says
I can’t tell if I’m supposed to tell you that I filled in the survey??
Chautona Havig says
Yep! Thanks!!!
Willena says
Tun survey! But only one favourite musician? Seriously? I wouldn’t know where to begin!!!
Willena says
Um… that was supposed to say FUN survey. And I can’t even blame a smart phone!
Chautona Havig says
I don’t have one either. LOL
Chautona Havig says
RIGHT? I always just have to answer the first name that comes to me on those things.
Willena says
Bobby Vinton. 😛 I was a teenager in the 60’s, and I still love all my old favourites… but I’m pretty eclectic in my taste. My kids like a lot of it too, and because of them, I like a lot of the newer music too.
Chautona Havig says
WHEEEEEEE!!! Roses are red, my love… LOVE BOBBY VINTON WHEE!
Deb J says
Single, never married, 65 next month, love to read Christian fiction/non-fiction.
Chautona Havig says
Oooh! T think you sound fascinating.
Rebecca Pittman says
That was fun! Although that last question was kind of sneaky…
Chautona Havig says
Well, it does ep you see into the minds of your friends, right?
Natasha Metzler says
Super fun survey! ?
Natasha Metzler says
Not sure where the question mark came from. I was definitely making a statement. But alas, at times my smart phone is a bit smarter than I and decides to fix my writings. ?
Chautona Havig says
I call them “Backseat writers.”
Chautona Havig says
Hee hee. )
Ava says
Didn’t see the Coke vs. coffee question. Coke all the way!!! I love reading your blog, your books, etc because you are real and you are interesting. There is both depth and a lot of fun in your writing with a good balance of each. Meeting you was a blast! I’m just waking up so my brain is not totally on yet. Plus it’s VBS week. Fun but exhausting.
Chautona Havig says
I’m worn out just hearing about it. EEEP.
Andrea Rossignol says
Fun! So will you be gleaning inspiration from our final answers and make our dreams come true?
Chautona Havig says
Is your dream for Legends 2? YES!
Courtney says
I did the survey. But I didn’t get to answer what I like best about your blog posts! Some of them are a little more serious, but I love the “ramblings” which always make me laugh–and often leave me with more questions about your childhood than before I started reading!
Chautona Havig says
It was a rather magical time. Weird. But magical.
Jackie Hershberger says
Loved this!! Thanks for wanting to know us too!
Chautona Havig says
You’re wonderful people. Why wouldn’t I?
Suz says
I did your survey. Sorry my last question was so long! Lol. Love your stuff. You come as close to “real life” as more than most!
Suz Ness
Chautona Havig says
I don’t think that there can be a final question long enough, so you did just fine. Thank you!
Sarah says
I played!
But, really. Why does not one tell you about the fifth child?
Chautona Havig says
MMMMWAAAHAHAHAHA! You win funniest response award!
Rachel Dodson says
Chautona, my dear, I love to read your blog! I feel like I’m having a conversation with one of my best friends. Your emails are ones I always read. Thanks for the little survey. It was fun.
Chautona Havig says
Thank you! I love “Chatting” with you!
Colleen McGarry says
Took your survey. I’ll be curious if you end up with some sort of data analysis. Or a post about what you learned from these questions.
🙂
Chautona Havig says
I absolutely will be sharing some of the results! Anything not too personal. If someone shares the social security number of their first child or something… I ‘m keeping that info for myself. Always wanted a nice even ten kids…
Holly says
Thank you. It was fun. I did not feel like I could think of things very well so I apologize my answers are boring.
Chautona Havig says
No answers are boring! I’m enjoying them! Any chance you’re the needle felter?
Rebekah says
This was fun. This is in addition to the Launch Team one, correct?
Chautona Havig says
YES!
Darlene says
I enjoyed the “Get to know you” survey! Thanks, Chautona!
Chautona Havig says
YAY! I love your book idea!
Emily says
I sent you an email before doing this survey. ?
Chautona Havig says
That’s for the launch team I presume?
Emily says
Yes. ? that was for the launch team. I tried a one word answer and it told me to go back and write more. ??