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5 Things I Hate about Writing (Number 4 is the worst)

by Chautona Havig · 11 Comments

What, you thought it was all roses and ink stains?  HA! Dream on! 

Okay, so writing is pretty awesome.  I’m not going to pretend it isn’t.  I love it.  Always have.  I’ve “written” stories in my head since I was old enough to think coherently–or at least I thought I was coherent, and I’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t crush my rose-tinted dreams. 

I could easily do a post on “500 Things I LOVE about Writing” and still never hit them all.  I should try it someday–all in one-word answers.  Each one can only be one word.  Hmm… gotta think about that.

Anyway, there are, however, a few things I DON’T like about writing.  Some of them are obvious.  Others, maybe not so much?  So let’s dive in and share the top five (and probably close to the only 5) things I don’t like about writing.

5 Things I Hate about Writing

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 Number 1: It kills my motto. 

Seriously.  I have this motto.  It goes:  “Perfect isn’t without flaw.  Perfect is FINISHED.”  Um… ahem.  Seriously?  Have you ever heard of those nasty things called “rough drafts” or, for the tortured soul in all writers, we can call it the “FIRST draft.”

Mmmmmwaaahahahaha!!!  Seriously.  Who thought of that?  Sixty-three revisions later (two after publication because all the advance readers, the editor, the proofreader, and your 353490 rereads that made you hate the book you once loved  missed that you said California was EAST of the Mississippi), you finally admit defeat and call it “good enough.”  But really, if you’re honest with yourself, it’s not. 

Jeff Goins said it right.  “Your art is never finished.”

Number 2: The hyper-awareness of time. 

time I don’t think it’s supposed to be this way.  I think good writers are supposed to become so lost in their work that they forget time–become lost in another world, as it were.  Yeah.  Not me. 

My problem is that I have so many stories in my head–characters screaming for their time on stage.  I have a woman so in love with her husband–the man she thought she’d be able to distance herself from–that it kills her when she has to leave him and divorce him. There’s also a group of young people heading off to church camp for a couple of weeks of refreshing time with other Christians and the Lord who want their tragic story told. 

I have a family saga, only just begun, aching to flow from my fingers like the wine in the valley where they live. 

And that’s truly the very smallest tip of the iceberg of my imagination. 

I’ll never be able to do it all.  I need to come to grip with that truth.  I will never be able to tell all the stories.  Time.  I hate it.  I hate that it’s always chasing me–pushing me to work faster, harder, get the stories out when sometimes I just want to kick back and enjoy a leisurely walk through someone’s tale.  I’d do it–I’ve tried.  But you know what?  I can’t stand it because that other story is still there, niggling me.

Number 3: I can’t read a book just for pleasure, in the same way I used to. 

As I said in a previous post, all the things you learn about the craft of writing, and your propensity to practice those skills every second of the waking day (and in your sleep).

You won’t believe how often I wake with a single thought in mind to write down–one that’s been repeating itself in my brain for the past 8 hours!!!—tends to strip the joy out of reading unless you’re blessed to begin a book so good that the story sweeps you along and out of your constant “work mode.” 

Number 4: marketing booksMarketing. 

There, I said it.  All the marketing gurus say that we’re supposed to embrace the thrill of marketing.  They say it’s just about talking to people–making connections.  Being friendly.  Okay, I can do that.  I LOVE to do that. 

But you know what I can’t do–what I despise doing?  Using that friendship I’ve forged to try to sell a book.  I won’t do it.  I can’t.  But, if I don’t do it to some extent, then guess what?  I go broke and the IRS tries to take possession of my firstborn. 

Hint:  they can’t have her.  She’s not mine anymore.  

Okay, here it is. You take a person who is naturally shy and make her write a book.  You tell her to go on social media. Hint: social media is either the best thing ever for the shy person–or the worst.  Depending on how they handle their… affliction. 

I think introversion vs. extroversion might play in there, but I’m not sure.  I’m a shy introvert.  That means that IN PERSON, if I can get away without saying anything and still feel comfortable… I will. 

And then I’ll go home and collapse for a few hours while I recharge. 

If I can’t, I’ll run my mouth, make a fool of myself, and then go home, collapse, and recharge.  Either way, I need to recharge.  Alone.  And lick my wounds.  LOL.  Online, seems to kill that problem.  So marketing should be a breeze right?  Um, no.  Why? 

Because the fundamental core of marketing is to sell something.  I can try to convince anyone to buy anyone else’s products, but I can’t stand doing it for myself.  I’d rather give it away. 

That’s why I hired Ashley.  She does the dirty work and lets me give away enough to handle the guilt that comes with each royalty payment.  Look, I’d love nothing more than to be independently wealthy and just write.  I’d give my books away and no one would pay a dime.  We all have dreams.  That’s mine.

Number 5: Saying goodbye to characters and series. 

I hate that.  Seriously hate that.  I remember dragging my feet as I tried to finish the Annals of Wynnewood Series. Only when I gave myself permission to write a spin-off series was I able to finish up the final book.  Aggie–same thing.  I didn’t want it to end, but it needed to  So, I wrote Not a Word and put Luke in there just because I missed him. 

And, well, it’s why there’s another Aggie book coming AND why I came up with another spin-off–a Vannie story.  Who wants to see our little girl grow up?  I  hated ending Past Forward–so I wrote HearthLand. Same thing for The Agency Files, so I turned one of my other book ideas into the one where Keith JOINS The Agency. 

I tell you.  It’s an illness.  They’re real to me–friends.  Some people think I’m just being silly or joking when I call them my “imaginary friends” but I’m not.  People often describe writing a book as a birth–the book being their child.  In a strange way, it’s true.

There you have it. 

Five things I hate about writing. Subject to change without notice.  Sigh.

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  1. Ima says

    July 16, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    I LOVE this article! I’m an introvert too- not painfully so, just shy, and need my alone time or I fall apart. I don’t have scientific data to back this up, but I think maybe most writers are introverts, at least to some extent. I think when you are shy, you tend to observe more, and that makes you a better writer. 🙂

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    • Chautona Havig says

      July 16, 2018 at 2:34 pm

      I’ve actually seen polls that show more writers being introverts than extroverts. And shy folks… well, I think sometimes shy and introvert go hand-in-hand. I actually have a shy extroverted character coming. Can’t wait to introduce her.

      Reply
  2. Lucinda says

    March 18, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    I promise to read your books as long as you write them, and should I lose the ability to read, then the grandkids will read them TO me! I’ve been so very blessed to watch the birthing process unfold in a chat, and it is fascinating! Really, truly amazing. Then you let us plead and wheedle you into just one more book with Keith….or Aggie….or Willow, so partly WE are to blame about that whole “I’ll never get them all written” problem….these characters are more like family, in great part because of how you’ve intertwined their stories, and you do it OH so very well.
    Thanks for putting yourself out of your comfort zone often enough that we have the privilege of reading yet another Havig work.

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    • Chautona Havig says

      March 19, 2017 at 5:03 am

      That was truly beautiful. Thank you!

      Reply
  3. Grace says

    March 17, 2017 at 11:27 am

    I can so relate to #3. Ever since taking a proofreading course in business school, it seems that I have to proofread everything I read. My biggest complaint so far is when authors misuse farther and further (farther=measurable distance as in “farther down the road”, further=implied distance as in “further one’s education”). It just drives me to distraction! I will never be a writer, but I am so glad that God has gifted others to write.

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    • Chautona Havig says

      March 17, 2017 at 9:10 pm

      How funny! Farther and further are pet peeves of mine, too. I try to put it wrong in dialogue because it’s how people talk, and I just can’t do it!

      Reply
  4. Ryoko says

    July 23, 2015 at 3:12 pm

    I fall I love with characters too. I find myself plotting how to help them solve their problems, to figure out what happens after the book ends. Thank you for sharing more of their stories with us.

    I appreciated so much how they grow in the Lord.

    I am an extrovert., but married to an introverted. In the beginning I didn’t understand that meant he NEEED alone time, that it recharged him.

    God has gifted us differently. Thank you for blessing us.

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  5. Rebekah says

    July 23, 2015 at 9:38 am

    Loved 4 and 5. Those describe me too – almost perfectly. Except I’m a shy-extrovert and I don’t have Ashley. 😉 I’m trying to teach myself to conquer 3. I love to read so much – I don’t want to lose that.

    Loved the post! 🙂

    Reply
    • Chautona says

      July 23, 2015 at 1:26 pm

      We’re quite scary similar, aren’t we?

      Reply
  6. Heather S says

    July 23, 2015 at 9:18 am

    I just love you. Really. Your caring about readers comes through in the way you care about characters. You write their stories as though they’re real people and that you care about what happens to them. You give their stories dignity and don’t end them with the literary equivalent of “and they all lived happily ever after”–the two page wedding/birth epilogue. Thank you for pursuing your dream, your gift, your craft. Perfect or not, when I sit down to read your works, I feel like I’m drinking hot tea on a cold day.

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    • Chautona says

      July 23, 2015 at 1:27 pm

      Aw, Heather. You bless me. Thank you so much. I think that’s why I keep my people showing up in other books–I can’t just marry them off and call it quits.

      Reply

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